Love Coach Newsletter #190, 11/13/05
Service of FixYourLoveLife.com and Love Coach Rinatta Paries
 

Welcome to this week's issue, sent at your request!

In this issue:
1. News
2. How to Get Your Partner to Change His or Her Behavior
3. Get Help Getting Your Partner to Change
4. How to Let Your Ex Go


1. News
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Boy, time flies when you are being creative. It has again been about a month since the last newsletter. Good thing most of you know to expect the newsletter about every two weeks or so, with the emphasis on the “or so”.

For the last two weeks I have been working on a deeply transformative eClass that will be coming out in the next two weeks. All I will tell you for now is that it’s called The Key, with all of the connotations the name implies. Watch for it—I’ll be telling you more soon.

For this week I have a powerful newsletter for you. You will be reading two great articles and be introduced to a new and very special coaching program. Enjoy!

2. How to Get Your Partner to Change His or Her Behavior
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It’s frustrating and depressing to see the person you love ignore what you need and want from him or her. It’s frustrating to have to ask repeatedly for what you want and not get it. It’s even worse if you are the kind of a person who doesn’t ask for what you want, but only wish you were treated better and wonder why you are not.

It’s maddening to show your relationship partner all of the logical reasons he or she should change, construct a completely convincing argument, provide all the necessary support – and still see no change in his or her behavior.

It’s sad to feel like you will have to sacrifice the relationship with a person you like, or perhaps even love, in order to be happy.

You know you can’t make another person change his or her behavior. But you know there must be something you can do that you have not yet tried to make him or her change, so that the relationship can work and both of you can be happy.

And you are right. In this article I will tell you in what circumstances it is ok to ask your partner to change his or her behavior and give you the tools you need to get your partner to make those changes. More...

3. Get Help Getting Your Partner to Change
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Do you wish your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife would change?

You know you can’t make another person change his or her behavior. But you can significantly improve the chances that your relationship partner will make changes for the better. How? By creating a relationship environment that strongly encourages personal and behavioral change.

Be careful, however, that you do not try to manipulate, beg, nag, bully or threaten your significant other into changing. Doing that will only alienate your partner and get even less of what you want from him or her.

I don’t want that for you. I want you to become skillful at effectively causing change in your relationship and making yourself, and your partner, happy.

That’s why I have created a very special coaching program, Get Your Partner to Change Now! I am only taking 5 people into the program, because working with them to change their relationship is going to be a lot of work for me.

For the 5 very special people who really want to save their relationship and experience deep relationship fulfillment with the person they are currently with, this program will be the miracle they have been asking for.

For more information and to claim one of these five special program spots, go to
www.whatittakes.com/getchange

4. How to Let Your Ex Go
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 Most people had relationships in their past that didn't work. Most people have at least one such relationship that is very hard to let go of. This is the one that got away, but shouldn't have. This is the one that felt as if it was meant to be. This is the one that felt like true love, yet just would not work. How do you let go of a relationship like this?

When your partner in that relationship was at his or her best, he or she met all of your needs. He or she was the perfect fit for you. If he or she could have been that way with you 100% of the time, rather than just sometimes, you would still be in the relationship. The times he or she was everything you needed are hard to let go of. You have been looking for that kind of love all of your life.

Here was a person who could meet your needs the way you have always wanted. You knew he or she could, because sometimes he or she did. But he or she wouldn't. You wanted to make, force, remind or talk him or her into it. You did everything possible to make him or her be the way you wanted 100% of the time. You may have asked him or her to go to therapy. You used all of the tricks in the book you could come up with to evoke the behavior you wanted.
Finally you left the relationship. You knew you deserved better than just some fraction of what you wanted. But the attachment to your ex lingers. How do you let go? More...

Love Always!
Your Love Coach,
Rinatta Paries
Coach@WhatItTakes.com

I help people fix their love life!

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