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Relationship Coach Newsletter #177, 1/7/05
Service of WhatItTakes.com Love Education & Coaching & Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries
In This Newsletter:
1. News, Manage Your Subscription, Customer Comment, Article Synopsis
2. This Week's Article - The Eight+ Stages of Relationships, Part I
3. Help for Your Love Life: Something New and Different
1. News, Manage Your Subscription, Customer Comment, Article Synopsis
Hello
Relationship Coach Newsletter is sent out weekly by you request. Welcome to this week's issue!
News:
Watch for some exciting announcements in the next few weeks.
Customer Comment:
A customer just wrote in about the Whom Are You Dating and How Not To Blow It In A New Relationship eClasses she purchased from Singles Help Center at WhatItTakes.com:
"The classes were superb. Really, if you think about it, alot of the content was basic common sense, but as a searching single I know that I don't always exercise that or any kind of rationality. Since I am always pressed for time I loved the clear, concise short lessons . Alot of the content was very thought provoking. It really makes a difference if you write the exercises as instructed. Putting things in black and white is actually a little harder than thinking about them. Keep up the good work." ~~ Kathy W.
Manage Your Subscription:
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Article Synopsis:
One article today, applying to all stages of singlehood and relationship:
Relationships go through 8 predictable stages - learn about the 1st 4 of these this week.
2. This Week's Article - The Eight+ Stages of Relationships, Part I
Relationships go through predictable stages as they grow and develop. This can be said for all relationships, but it specifically true for romantic relationships.
These stages are unavoidable and happen in every relationships. The key to a happy relationship is to know what stage the relationship is in and dealing with well with that stage.
What stage is your relationship in? Or, if you are not in a relationship, at what stage do your relationships always end? Why?
At times knowledge is power - if you know the stage your relationship is in or the stage at which your relationships always end, you may be able to see events in a different way as they unfold, perhaps even change their course.
Stage 1: The Honeymoon
This stage is what love songs and fairy tales tell us love is supposed to be like. You meet, you connect, you fall in love. Everything seems right. Nothing seems out of place. Even if some things don't seem exactly right, you are full of hope they will work themselves out.
When it starts and how long it lasts:
Can start from day one, most times is in effect by the first month and can last from three to six months.
Stage 2: The Discovery
This is the stage when enough of the excitement of being together fades so that you can actually discover whom the other person really is. You and he/she begin to recognize each other's quirks and neuroses, and start to notice things that bug you about each other. You also begin to discover what you truly love and respect about each other. Your communication should deepen to a soulful level, where you begin to open up to each other.
When it starts and how long it lasts:
Starts between three and six months into the relationship and can last for a number of years, depending on how comfortable the couple is with self-disclosure and how quickly the couple wants to progress in emotional intimacy.
Stage 3: The Commitment
This is the stage most singles fantasize about - the place where the relationship is settled, you know you are together - and you can finally relax. This is the stage most couples try to rush toward and arrive at too soon. And it is a wonderful stage...but rather than the end of the process, it is only the beginning. In many ways, a relationship does not truly begin until a couple commits to each other.
When it starts and how long it lasts:
Stage starts once both members of the couple decide to commit to each other - move into a committed relationship, start to live together, get married or take on some other form of deep commitment.
Stage 4: The Power Struggle
This is the stage at which many couples split up. The power struggle can be a gut-wrenching, painful experience for a couple. This can be a time of arguments or silence, a time that will truly test the couple's mettle. Most couples wonder how they got to this stage - it comes on out of nowhere and without much warning. Because almost all of the relationship up to this point has been mainly joyful, it is a very shocking stage for a couple to experience.
When it starts and how long it lasts:
Can start as soon as the commitment is solidified, or soon thereafter. Can last until the couple breaks up, or for many years. Or the couple can find a way to work through this stage and move into the following stages of the relationship.
The power struggle is the deciding point of the relationship, and solidifies the future of the relationship. There are three possible ways the couple comes out of a power struggle. We will look at these next week.
3. Help for Your Love Life: Something New and Different
Membership in WhatItTakes.com
Here is a new and different idea I am thinking of offering: a one year membership in WhatItTakes.com.
For a $100 membership fee you would get access to all current eClasses, plus all eClasses and audio programs - something new I will be offering - that come out during the next year. You are guaranteed to get at least $150.00 worth of material during the year, and likely much more. Plus you get 20% off all of my individual and group coaching services.
How does that sound? I am interested in hearing your feedback on this idea of making personal growth resources more accessible to you. Email me to let me know if this something you would want to participate in.
Enjoy!
Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries
Coach@WhatItTakes.com
www.WhatItTakes.com
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