Relationship Coach Newsletter #180, 2/8/05 Service of WhatItTakes.com & Love Coach Rinatta Paries   Welcome to this week’s issue, sent at your request! In this issue: 1. News, Your Feedback, Your Subscription, Article Synopsis 2. Help for you on What To Do this Valentine's Day 3. Article for Singles, People in Relationships & Marriages:    What to do this Valentine's Day   1. News, Your Feedback, Your Subscription, Article Synopsis __________________________________________________________________ News SelfGrowthSingles got a good start last week, but I have still gone back to the drawing board to add new features and build a true community environment. I hold a strong vision of creating the only all-encompassing community in existence where singles involved in self-development of all kinds come for community, friendship and love. Watch the newsletter for news about the re-launch of this valuable community. Your Feedback A customer just wrote in about the Who Do You Need eClass she purchased from the Singles Dating & Love Education at WhatItTakes.com: "It's fantastic and most timely. Thank you." ~ Josephine Your Subscription SUBSCRIBE: visit http://www.WhatItTakes.com/Archive UNSUBSCRIBE: CHANGE INFO: Article Synopsis One article today, applying to all stages of singlehood and relationships: How to create a most romantic, joyful Valentine's Day -- whether or not you're in a relationship!   2. Help for you on What To Do this Valentine's Day __________________________________________________________________ The answer to your Valentine's Day dilemmas - a Valentine's question-and-answer teleseminar with Coach Rinatta Paries.   * Worried about your partner's expectations & how to meet them? * Afraid you won't get the love you want from your mate? * Feeling awkward about this holiday in your relationship? * Out of ideas for Valentine's Day to make it joyful? * Feeling lonely and depressed because you're single on V Day? * Hate Valentine's Day and want to know how to survive it? Get all your questions answered and get the help you need. Join Coach Rinatta Paries on Thursday, 2/10 at 8:30pm EST (which is 5:30pm PST & 7:30pm CST) in this timely teleseminar. Register or find out more. If you don't know what a telephone teleseminar is and how you would participate, or if there are any other extra costs involved (there aren't), learn more here.   3. Article for Singles, People in Relationships & Marriages __________________________________________________________________ What to do this Valentine's Day Rarely does Valentine's Day pass by without you noticing. Even if you are single and think the day has no significance for you, when it arrives you will want a relationship more than usual. If you are in a relationship and Valentine's Day does not get celebrated, it may leave hurt and resentment in its wake. Think of Valentine's Day as "Focus on Love Day". Do you think of it that way already? You will be surprised to know that many people secretly experience Valentine's Day as "Hurt About Lack of Love in My Relationship Day" or "Be Sad About Being Single Day." If you truly start thinking about Valentine's Day as "Focus on Love Day", you can create a most romantic, joyful Valentine's Day-- whether or not you're in a relationship! Below you will find ways to make your "Focus on Love Day" romantic and joyful, whether you are happily (or unhappily)in a long-term relationship, dating, or single. Two Notes For people in struggling relationships: don't make this the day that makes or breaks your relationship. Don't have expectations, as your relationship may not be able to sustain or fulfill them. Instead, take care of yourself by following the suggestions for singles below. Do something small for your partner. Look for suggestions for couples below, but tone the activity down. For people who are in a new relationship, or who are dating but aren't committed to each other, it's best not to have too many expectations about Valentine's Day. Follow the suggestions for singles below. Do something small for your dating partner. Look over the suggestions for couples below, but tone the activity down. And now, 7 ways to make your "Focus on Love Day" romantic & joyful: 1. A Wonderful Day Couples: Subtly question your partner about what he/she pictures as the perfect way to spend a day. Use this information to create a wonderful Valentine's Day for him or her. Singles: If you had a partner, what would you have him or her do to create a perfect way for you to spend a day? Create this for yourself on Valentine's Day -- love yourself that much. 2. Beautiful Card + One Beautiful Rose Couples: Buy or make a lovely card and then fill it to the brim with words of love, admiration and appreciation. By "fill it to the brim," I mean leave no white space untouched. Present it with one beautiful rose. Singles: Buy or make a lovely card for yourself, and just as above, fill it to the brim with words you want to hear from your future partner. Seal the envelope and open it on Valentine's Day. Present it to yourself with one beautiful rose. 3. A Shower of Words Couples: Write your loved one a love letter or poem and read it to him or her on Valentine's Day. Watch for the tears. Singles: Write yourself a love letter or poem, exactly the way you would want it written by a partner. Read it to yourself out loud and have Kleenex ready. 4. Valentine's Day is Not Just for Women Couples: Ladies, I have it on good authority that guys want to be celebrated, too. So give him a small, sweet thing he will appreciate. Singles: Guys, give yourself that same wonderful Valentine's Day as a relationship partner would give you. You may feel silly, but you will also feel good. 5. The Gift of Communication Couples: Men work on allowing your lady to talk about whatever her heart desires, and really listening. Talk to her, too, from your heart. No closing down, walling up or running away allowed. Ladies, work on letting your man talk without finishing his sentences, interrupting him, or moving on to the next topic. Also, try sitting down next to him in silence for a bit. Singles: Either find a person who will listen to you the way you need to be heard, or give yourself space and time to listen to your own thoughts and feelings or to journal. 6. A Gift with Interest Couples: Is your partner into computers, and you don't know a mouse from a monitor? Or is she into gardening, but to you a rose is just a rose? Give your partner the gift of your immersing yourself in his or her world. Singles: Give yourself the gift of time to pursue interests. Take the time to do something that nourishes you and makes you  happy. 7. The Trust Couples: Give your partner the gift of trusting him or her to know how and when to take care of the relationship and you. Trust that your partner will do his or her best for Valentine's Day. Each of you give and listen for subtle requests. Then honor them. Singles: Today, trust your process and your fate. Today, trust that you, too, will be loved and cherished by a partner. Today, remember all the people who already love and cherish you. Need more personal help on What To Do this Valentine's Day? Check out a Valentine's questions-and-answers teleseminar with Coach Rinatta Paries being held this week.   Love Always! Your Love Coach, Rinatta Paries Coach@WhatItTakes.com Love Education & Coaching Services at  www.WhatItTakes.com Real Help for Singles, Dating, in Relationship, Engaged & Married People! __________________________________________________________________ Copyright WhatItTakes.com 1998-2005. All rights reserved. Please forward this newsletter, but it MUST be whole and intact. To use our articles in your publication or website, contact Coach Rinatta Paries for permission.